Are You Being Taken Advantage Of?
March 7, 2019
If someone is continuously taking advantage of you, then they are not showing you the respect that you deserve. Surprisingly, it could be your fault. This might be hard to take in and admit, but you are allowing others to take advantage of you. If you can accept that, then you can take move to the next step and start setting boundaries.
Here are five ways to tell if you are accountable for letting others take advantage of you:
- You say “yes” without considering the request because you want to be “kind.”
- You let other people’s behavior cause you stress.
- You think others are more worthy than you.
- Your concepts are never taken seriously.
- You have no boundaries.
If you relate to any of those statements, then there is your answer: you are letting others use you. If that really hit you hard, know that someone else’s mistakes are never your own. You cannot blame yourself for that. Ever. It’s not you, it’s them. However, with time and love you will stop putting weight on your shoulders.
For some people it might be difficult to notice if they are being taken advantage of. Here are a few ways to tell:
- They only hang out with you when they need something.
- They only text you when they need help on homework.
- They exclude you from their group, but talk to you when they need you.
- They humiliate/make fun of you in front of others, but are nice to you when no one is around.
- They hung out with you when they had no friends, but later on stopped talking to you because they’ve made other friends and don’t need you anymore.
If you relate to any of those statements; there are ways to stop being taken advantage of.
Here are six ways to stop being taken advantage of:
- Be more compassionate to yourself.
- Learn to deal with conflict.
- Choose the right battle.
- Learn to say “no”.
- Set boundaries.
- Have the courage to talk about your feelings.
- Make new friends.
- Stop hanging out with people if they drain your positive energy.
Don’t ever be afraid to put yourself first because I promise you anyone in your circle, anyone that is friends with you or associates themselves with you, is never going to be offended by that. They have their own life going on and they’re putting themselves first to worry about what you are doing, or how you are feeling. As long as they put the time to hang out with you and give you attention and really invest in the friendship or the relationship, it should never be a problem.
People do not have the right to be angry at you for putting yourself and your happiness first. It’s your life, and you are worthy of every bit of happiness. Do not let others use or humiliate you, and let you go like they don’t care about you. If you are still recovering from a loss of toxic friendships, please talk to Ms. Hope. ,