My Sexuality

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My Sexuality

Salem Scobee at Pride Festival holding the LGBT+ Pride flag.

Salem Scobee at Pride Festival holding the LGBT+ Pride flag.

Salem Scobee at Pride Festival holding the LGBT+ Pride flag.

Salem Scobee at Pride Festival holding the LGBT+ Pride flag.

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Growing up in a small Nebraskan town and being a lesbian, I was especially lucky to have parents who didn’t really believe in conformity. My mom and dad made it clear that if I was “different” it was okay. 

This is not to say I never saw or heard homophobia, but it was hardly overt or violent, just the occasional jab at same-sex marriages and such. I still knew even from a young age that the feelings that I felt for other girls would not be tolerated by some of the people I looked up to most. When homosexuality was discussed, it was always in hushed tones. All my life I had been conditioned to think “lesbian” was a bad word.

It was not until I was much older that I started to really think about all the gay stuff I did as a kid. And it was not until I was much, much older that I could think about it all and not feel the feelings of regret and guilt in my chest. Even though I did not grow up in a religious household, I still had the fear of burning in hell for all eternity.

The move from small(minded) Bennington, NE to only slightly larger, but extremely liberal, Littleton, CO, made it easy to embrace who I am. I still remember my first ever downtown Denver Pride Parade. While I wasn’t out to anybody at that time, including myself, seeing the members of my community come together still filled my heart with love and happiness.

Now when conversations start about homosexuality, it is still absolutely difficult and scary to speak up out of fear that the people around me are secretly bigoted or homophobic, and when I hear people I call my friends throw around words like d*ke or f*g or even gay it hurts me, because I know that as much as somebody says they are joking about it, there is something inside of them that thinks that something about how I identify is a joke.

For any person questioning their sexuality, I would say that as much hatred and poison you hear coming from wherever there are ten thousands time the love and acceptance. And as confusing figuring out who you are, you should never feel embarrassed or ashamed no matter how many times you change your label or if you don’t have a label. Your identity is valid!

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